Friday, October 26, 2007

Prayer

A few words of faith, written to reinforce the words in my mind while I pray with my heart.

Please bless my brother Zeus with
The strength to conquer all illness,
The speed in returning to health,
And the ability to keep it in any circumstance.

That is all I pray for, and for it to be fulfilled as fast as possible.

I give thanks for making this prayer come true.

Sunday, September 09, 2007

Why do I want to succeed?

It was only after I heard testimonials from some friends of mine that made me start to think: what is my driving force behind my pursuit for success? Why in the world do I want to succeed? Most of them are doing it for their family, for their parents. It was the only way out for them. There is a need and a true urgency for them to succeed. Some of them have parents who have worked so hard for them and they truly want to repay them by providing for them, for the rest of their lives.

Yet, after listening to them, my need to change seemed shaky. It's almost as though my need of change is simply insignificant compared to theirs. Some of them had parents in poor health, some so poor that they have never gone overseas before, and some of them had brothers and sisters that wanted to go to school but didn't have the money to... For me, I'm living in a wonderful 5-room HDB flat, my dad is planning on moving to a condo next year, and we are living in a relatively carefree, comfortable life.

So why did I want to strike out? Simply because for all my 20 years, all that I ever contributed to the family was a burden. For years I spent my mum and dad's hard-earned money, and for years I saw my dad flying in and out of Singapore to set up his own business in Thailand. I had had enough. I was 20 now, and for me I wanted to change simply because I didn't want to depend on my dad forever. In Robert Kiyosaki terms, it means "my life, on my own terms". Sure, everything was on my own terms right now, but it was supported and fed through my dad's pockets. I hate the fact that I have no choice but to accept extra pocket money from them. After all, I am the eldest son, and after so many years of my parents and grandmother taking so good care of me, was I still going to let them take care of me, forever for the rest of my life? That was why I stepped out to do my own business, and that is why I want to succeed.

Today I did not step out to share, and I was disappointed and relieved at the same time. I was disappointed, because I wanted to share, but relieved, because every one who shared about why they wanted to succeed did so with such passion and determination that made me truly reflect and think. Damn, I can tell you that I was so disappointed in myself. I was living in such a comfortable environment, and after listening to their sharing I really thought: they want to succeed for such a good reason. Is my reason to succeed even half as good as theirs?

I want to succeed. And I am going to make it happen. My story is simple, and my life had no true hardship that those people around me have had. Yet I hope my reason to succeed is strong enough to carry me through this journey.

Wednesday, October 18, 2006

In Between "Trouble"

Oh no I see
A spider web it's tangled up with me
And I lost my head
The thought of all the stupid things I said

Life is full of ups and downs. When you have a splitting headache and you feel like there's nothing else that you do that can make you feel better, you might turn to blogging it out.

Oh no what's this
A spider web and I'm caught in the middle
So I turned to run
The thought of all the stupid things I've done

So I scrolled through my list of MSN buddies and I realised... there really isn't anyone that I can dare to talk to without the fear of irritating someone.

And oh I never meant to cause you trouble
And oh and I never meant to do you wrong
And oh well if I ever caused you trouble
Oh no I never meant to do you harm

In between my perspiration and my frustration... I think I really can't do anything much. Except write. And I can't really write that well either.

Oh no I see
A spider web and it's me in the middle
So I twist and turn
Here am I in my little bubble

Keeping to myself might just be the best solution. Then I fear I'll lose even my circle of closest friends, whoever they may be.

Singing out
Oh I never meant to cause you trouble
Oh I never meant to do you wrong
Oh well if I ever caused you trouble
Oh no I never meant to do you harm

Perhaps I was never that good at expressing myself. Or perhaps I do it too vividly.

They spun a web for me
They spun a web for me
They spun a web for me


They spun a web for me, and here I am entangled in this mess.

Wednesday, September 27, 2006

The Meeting

I arrive early this time. Normally I'm late, but this time I made it at eight-thirty. The night sky is turning deep black while the bulbs on the lamp-posts are fighting the darkness, not single-handedly, because the headlights from the onrushing vehicles on the roads are also doing the same.

My thoughts are as hazy as the night - I'm wondering what I'm doing at the bus stop. Of course. I know what I'm doing there, but why am I doing it? And then I stop asking myself that question. It is the beginning of a neverending torrent of questions where my split personalities (some say they are consciences, really) fight for agreement with or without one another. Love could never be answered. Least of all, with me.

She arrives from the double-decker bus. I know she's arrived, but I don't dare to look up. I prefer it that she is the first one to say hi, so I can pretend to be surprised and look her up in the eye and see her smile. It is a simple meeting. I'm supposed to pass her some stuff as usual, and we talk about her university life and my health, and as usual we talk about nothing else until the awkward goodbye at the end of the journey, below her flat at the lift door.

I ask her how's school. She smiles again. There are some things I cannot remember, but I seem to be able to picture her smile in my mind. It is the same answer; at least, it is almost always the same, about stress and work and class participation that worries her. And of course, being in some difficulty to make ends meet especially when it comes to her personal pursuits. I nod, trying to respond in the gentlest way I can, but normally it turns out to be nothing short of a nerdy fashion.

I try to make my gastroscopy today sound like a passing remark. She picks up the topic and asks if I feel better. I tell her that the doctor extracted a small sample of my ulcer to see if there is anything cancerous. Later I'll tell her that it is all a precaution, but I stare intently into her face, just for a moment, to see if she shows any concern. Sadly, her expression barely changes, and soon the latest community service project is the new topic of discussion.

I hide my disappointment while I continue to listen. She says that our ex-classmate actually volunteered to sponsor her with an amount of money that was barely a fraction of the cost of the trip. I smile again at her joke, wondering if my presence actually is recognised, is acknowledged.

I ask where the nearest magazine store is, as we are about to part ways - such moments normally pass by so quickly. I never want it to end, but it does. But this time, it ends abruptly. She tells me the directions to the store, while she turns to make her way back to the lift. I say that I will send her back to the lift at least, before I make my way to the store.

I pass her the papers that she asked me to help print, and mention that I split the papers into different sections, and that I couldn't confirm if I had printed every of the 100 pages or so correctly. She smiles and says that it's okay, and everything, I feel, is all worth the trouble once again and twice over.

She says goodbye, and I too say the same before I leave, but what I really want to say remains in my heart.

Wednesday, July 26, 2006

Geylang Girls

They stand on the streets,
Row by row, young and sweet.
Range of prices - not too bad
Still too poor, so quite sad.

Then an Ah Beng comes along.
"How much for one night, song song?"
She points one hand of five fingers
He kisses her, says "I'll pay later".

Geylang girls, they come quite cheap
For unloved men all in a heap.
No love, no fights, no strings attached
As long as you paid to get your catch.

Perhaps why the men go there for fun -
There's no burden after they're done.
Except the nagging fear of death
Of VDs, of AIDS, of whatever's left.

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It is a twisted notion, I know, but once again I am questioning myself about the other great mystery of the universe: Women.

Whenever I seem (or think) that I am striking a relatively good friendship with one of them and think that it is possible for us to move further, they get scared off by my words and/or my actions. It has been a thoroughly humiliating time for me where the subject of relationships are concerned.

It was slightly disconcerting that the girls in particular alleys in Singapore signalled their intentions right from the start - that hell yeah, they were prepared to take me, as long as I paid for it.

Principle of Equivalent Trade, that's what they were attempting to convince me to believe.

Slightly baffled by their enthusiasm, I kept to my conscience, which was barely there throughout the entire trip to the back-alleys. I marvelled at the beauty of some of them, wondering why they were not trying for an alternative career in modelling. They smiled tauntingly at our faces, trying to unleash our inner beasts.

I kept it under control, reminding myself not to succumb to temptation. But even temptation can be rationally explained sometimes.

Some guys go to the alleys to remember how good it felt the last time they were here. Some others choose to come here to indulge, to forget about the real world.

It is a surreal environment out there, one which the pimps provide arguably the best customer service in the world, the girls openly smile at you when you ogle at them, and transactions are done only by cash.

It is another world altogether, where the ice-cream men are key players of the trade. They are the guards, the people who watch out for the people in blue uniforms, handcuffs and night-sticks. One ring of the bell is enough for the entire alley of people to go running to the nearest shelters.

For all those dangers that I was raised to believe in about indulging in the trade (and I can swear that still have NOT done it - still a virgin, to put it bluntly), the world over there is simple. It is really us who make it look complicated.

It is easier to understand the concept of the ice-cream men instead of a new PAP policy, for example. I am not saying this because government policies are difficult to understand, of course - it is merely to show how simple life is over there.

It is a trade; no emotions, no love involved. These things merely complicate the process. Money changes hands, services are provided, end of story. Both sides don't care about each other's story when they arrive. No teary eyes of sob stories to hear.

Sometimes I wonder: Who is right? Who is wrong?

Tuesday, June 20, 2006

Honesty

If you search for tenderness
it isn't hard to find.
You can have the love you need to live.

But if you look for truthfulness
You might just as well be blind.
It always seems to be so hard to give.

Honesty is such a lonely word.
Everyone is so untrue.
Honesty is hardly ever heard.
And mostly what I need from you.


I can always find someone
to say they sympathize.
If I wear my heart out on my sleeve.

But I don't want some pretty face
to tell me pretty lies.
All I want is someone to believe.


Honesty is such a lonely word.
Everyone is so untrue.
Honesty is hardly ever heard.
And mostly what I need from you.

I can find a lover.
I can find a friend.
I can have security until the bitter end.
Anyone can comfort me
with promises again.
I know, I know.


When I'm deep inside of me
don't be too concerned.
I won't ask for nothin' while I'm gone.
But when I want sincerity
tell me where else can I turn.
Because you're the one I depend upon.

Honesty is such a lonely word.
Everyone is so untrue.
Honesty is hardly ever heard.
And mostly what I need from you.

We are all liars. Truth and integrity are two things we value so much because, simply, they do not exist in abundance - they are rare, endangered.

Honesty is such a lonely, lonely word.

Monday, June 19, 2006

Everyone's Better, I'm Worse.

Decipher the depressed is back.

I am beginning to feel that my illness is weighing me down. My ambitions. My dreams. All sinking without trace.

I seem to be losing control of my voice, permanently.

My life isn't working out as well as I thought. The past three months - a downhill ride to Hell.

I can't even express my life properly.

And every time I click on the link to visit her blog it gets me down.

I look strong, but now it makes me feel weaker than ever.

I don't want to look at you. I don't want to lie. Just seeing your face makes me sad. Get away from me.

Once again, my illusions have taken over my senses - you were never there by my side, right?

And now even my voice is leaving me, my main tool of communication. I paint my life with the words I speak, I paint my emotions - and now all I have left is nothing.

PES E feels like full stop for me.

So drained after work, even though I do absolutely nothing sometimes - coupled with my current health (or lack of it), I am in no mood to think of exercise.

My procrastination seems to be pushing my driving dream further and further away.

My greatest enemy is myself. How do I defeat it?

I want my health back. Someone up there... what is it that YOU want from me?

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I'm in this state of "it's not my fault" mood right now.